Are you insecure?

Let’s talk about insecurities. I think most of us would say that we have things we are insecure about. Whether it be physical things, aspects of our personality, abilities we don’t have, or just a general feeling that we can’t do something, insecurities are a part of life.

In the Human Design chart the spleenic center is all about fear. The different energies in the spleen represent fears we may be born with in this lifetime. One thing that Human Design has helped me realize is that our fears are a gift. When we learn to acknowledge them, we can use them to help us understand our purpose here on earth.

One fear that appears in many charts and that I have in my own Human Design chart is the fear of inadequacy. The simple fear that maybe we don’t have what it takes. Maybe we aren’t good enough. I’ve talked to so many clients about this fear and the amount of relief they feel when I explain it them is palpable. It’s like they can take a deep breath. The reason they are relieved is because I’ve given them permission to feel inadequate sometimes. It’s okay. We all will have moments where we feel inadequate if we are committed to living a brave life.

There are times in my life when I have felt deeply inadequate and still do. But what I have learned is that when I love and accept these thoughts and feelings, they become much less powerful. Our inadequacies are here to be befriended. Once we do this, they are much easier to ignore.

As I am now building up my business and discovering that my life’s work is so far from what I thought it would be, there are moments when I feel this inadequacy come up. Can I even do this? Who do I think I am? Am I good enough? When these thoughts come up I sit with them and really listen to them with my whole heart. When I do I always hear the answers from deep within.

“Yes,” my soul whispers. “You really can. You are the light of the whole world, a gift to this Earth. You came here to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams.”

We all came here to create a life beyond our wildest dreams. We came here to be part of the ever expanding universe. When we co-create our dreams with the universe, we are expanding the cosmic energy of all that is. Your dreams are your destiny. God would have it no other way.

But we also came here to grow and expand. To be challenged. This is where our fears come in. When we learn to take action even when we feel insecure, this is when we grow. If it were easy all the time, we wouldn’t feel accomplished at the end of our lives. Who likes an autobiography written by someone who felt 100% sure of themselves all of the time?

When you feel insecure, remember that you are safe to feel this way. Give your insecurities so much love and acceptance. I’m too weird you say? Okay, I accept that, but I don’t believe that. I’m not smart enough you say? Okay, I accept that, but I don’t believe that.

Once you go through this, you can then hear the voice of your soul loud and clear. “Of course you can do this”, she’ll say. “You were born for this. Insecurities and all.”